What is Bondage: An Introduction to the True Definition
This week I am introducing a new series of Guest Posts from various different artists, entertainers and companies who have asked to be featured here on the Gabrielle Faust website. Tonight we have a Guest Post from one of the leading purveyor of adult products, Adam & Eve and author Melissa Peck, a sex and romance freelance writer and a huge erotica fan. Their topic tonight is a brief introduction to BDS&M for the absolute novice. Enjoy!
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WHAT IS BONDAGE?: AN INTRODUCTION TO THE TRUE DEFINITION
It puts the 'B' in BDSM, which stands for bondage, discipline/dominance, sadism/submission, and masochism.
But what exactly is bondage? Let's have a look.
A Bondage Overview
Bondage is a type of erotic practice that renders a consensual sexual partner's extremities and/or body partially or fully immobile through the use of binding, tying, or restraining.
According to this guide from Adam & Eve, the history of bondage dates back to medieval Japan and the creation of the art form known as Hojo-jutsu or Baku-jutsu. Both art forms started as a restraining method that allowed for the capture and quick immobilization of enemies. Later it was adopted and used by law enforcement officials on criminals. Today, the practice has clearly evolved to have a different purpose. Handcuffs have become the norm for restraining criminals, and the term bondage almost exclusively refers to the sexual act.
Some find the experience liberating, because it leaves you privy to your partner's whims. Others, however, see the inability to move as a form of relaxation or meditation. The reasons behind the act vary, but almost all of them are using it as a means for stimulation and pleasure.
What to Use
If the idea of incorporating some light bondage into your bedroom play excites you, there are plenty of kits you can utilize that contain everything you need to make the experience a memorable one. While you're still getting your feet wet, start with a kit that's specifically designed for beginners. Usually the products are more suited for novice enthusiasts, and typically they include instructions for how to best utilize the products.
Once you're more experienced with your own boundaries, and your partner's boundaries, your options for restraints are limited to your imagination. Miss Alice Gray suggests using household products like soft cotton rope to tie one another up. Also, scarves and ties can serve double duty as comfortable restraint items and blindfolds.
Just make sure that you always keep safety in mind.
The BDSM Events Page is a great resource for those looking to dip their toes into the bondage pool. They're continuously updating their list of worldwide events that celebrate the BDSM lifestyle. From Fetish Evolution Weekend in Essen, Germany, to the Bizarre Bazaar in Ontario, Canada, to Kinko De Mayo in Cleveland, Ohio, there's sure to be an event going on near you that will pique your interest.
If you're feeling intimidated, remember that you don't have to partake in the festivities to simply go have a look around. You may feel differently once you get there, but there's certainly no harm in window shopping.
Bondage is also a great way to add some excitement back into the bedroom, but only when it's done safely. Take precautions, use a safe word, and respect the limits of your partner, with whom you should always be communicating.